Life is like a menu
at a restaurant. You find the familiar, the enticing, the predictable and the
completely bland. While you peruse the menu you eventually have to make a
choice and then place an order.
The choices we make
are like tossing a coin in the air. You can only hope for the side you want to
land face up. You are not in total control of what side lands up or down. This uncertainty
influences people to choose wisely or foolishly. Yeah, it depends on how
they process situations.
So below are 7
choices you might plan on making today or are already making that will definitely not favour your
chances at fulfilment/happiness (you take your pick) in the future.
1.
The
choice to make decisions based on other people’s opinion
We
see things differently; therefore we process them differently. Your opinion
will definitely be different from another person’s. However, You must be
confident enough to view and process issues independently. Some people can’t
make decisions until nearly everyone in their lives have approved of it. When you’re
faced with choices, ask yourself “what
do I think?” and not what do people think?
If
you keep making choices based on what other people thought, You most likely would
have made regrettable choices in the next 7 years.
2.
The
choice to give up on your dreams to please someone else
Ever
heard the world people pleasers? Pleasing people or getting them to feel
comfortable around you is great but honey, not to the detriment of your
dreams.
Some
people have spent years at the university studying courses totally opposite to
their dreams because they want to please their parents. Others have given up
their dreams to please a spouse. Irrespective of how logical that choice may
seem at the moment, it’s bound to evoke regrets years down the line.
3.
The
choice to act only when you are surely sure
Yeah
right, no one enjoys making mistakes; especially on vital issues in life.
However, you can’t wait for years trying to be surely sure on a potential spouse, a career path or a ministry
project. Being surely sure is the practice of waiting really long until you
have all the facts, figures and future at the tip of your fingers. Life never
gives us the chance to be surely sure. You will have to make decisions based on
the information you have or sometimes based on nothing (visible) but your faith
(assuming God is asking you to do something). The problem with waiting to be
surely sure is that you most likely will pass on the best while waiting for seven
signs and wonders to convince you. LOL
4.
The
choice to wait passively for opportunities
So
you hope that someday, someone will invite you to speak at their conference and
yet you’ve never even began to research what aspect of life you will like to
become a speaker on.
Waiting
passively for opportunities to roll by, leaves you lame when the opportunities
arrive. If there is something you wish for, prepare like you already know when
and how it will happen. Do the opposite and regret will be inevitable.
5.
The
choice to settle for less than you deserve
I’m
not the place-yourself-on-an-eternally-high, unreachable pedestal thinking-person but I definitely believe in reaching for the highest possible quality
you desire.
So
if you know you’re worth better, why pack your bag at your current “location”
in life?
If
you decide to “manage” what life throws at you without making distinct plans or
taking clear steps towards what you deserve or desire, you will definitely
regret your laid back approach in years to come.
6.
The
choice to be someone you are not
You
know how tempting it is for you to “play along” because you are afraid of losing
someone or something you love? Inasmuch as that might seem okay at the
moment, it’s only a matter of time before those people see you for whom you
truly are and they will resent you. Don’t try to be someone you are not because
you want to get other people to stay with you. No matter the situation, being true to who you
are is more honourable than wearing masks around in pretence.
7.
The
choice to follow your heart care freely.
Inasmuch as we gain some sense of satisfaction when we give ourselves what our
hearts desire, it is unadvisable to follow your heart care freely. The heart
can’t tell what’s totally right or wrong we have to train/condition it into
what we want.
If you do everything your heart desires care freely, you would
most likely kill your boss or that friend who snatched your boyfriend.
Now how would you feel after you’ve killed
them?
I
bet not as good as you envisaged.
You
see my love, time has a way of placing things in correct perspective. What appears
extremely urgent and pressingly important today, may mean absolutely nothing or
worthless in 7 years time. Get the drift?
So
rather than act as your heart detects, measure every desire against scripture
because in the end, way beyond those 7 years in front, what we thought was right won’t negate what God's standard of right is.
Read: Beyond The Matter
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Anne
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