5 THINGS YOU SHOULD STOP EXPECTING FROM OTHERS

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Expectations are those little holes from which frustration sometime clouds our heart. Knowing what to expect or not expect from people is key to finding fulfilment in your everyday journey. Below are a few things you must never expect from people if you hate feeling frustrated.

1.   Total Acceptance 

Stop expecting people to totally accept you. People have their own idea of amazing and its no big deal if you don’t fit into their box. There’s someone who totally accepted you his name is Jesus! 

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2.   Frequent Validation

I totally understand the need to feel validated by a significant other. However, it becomes a torment when you often expect them or others to validate you and they don’t. When in doubt of how wonderful you are, look up Psalm 139:14. When in doubt about your capacity, look up Philippians 4:13. When in doubt of how cute you are, check the mirror in your house! 

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3.   Idea Endorsement

So an Idea popped in your head and you think it’s the most amazing one? Oh nice! It really might be but don't expect everyone around you to endorse your ideas. We see things differently remember? Some people might give useful constructive criticism and others might just call the bluff on your pretty idea. Whatever the case, always remember to check your idea against God’s expectation of you.

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4.   Confirmed thoughts

I know we kinda like it when people just know how we are feeling or what we are thinking without been told. In as much as that feels good, it’s totally unwise to expect that all the time. Only God knows the unspoken desires of our hearts in its entirety. So darling, speak up for you. Let others know what you like or don’t. Express yourself respectfully.

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5.   Perpetual Support

Don’t get me wrong. It’s totally necessary to have a support system. A spouse, a close friend, a teacher, pastor or anyone else. However, you must know that no one enjoys been occupied by tales of woes befalling others. It is okay to open up and share your struggles but please don’t let it become a signature. Don’t let them mark you as one who often has bad things going on in his/her life. They might smile at you but trust me, they soon would get tired.

Learn to take your worries to God in prayer for yourself. Jesus died for everyone to have access to God (Hebrews 4:16) and in as much as human sympathy is cool; JESUS sympathises way better than men and without the judgemental look or attitude. 

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Anne Atulaegwu

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