Everything that ever had an end,
had a beginning; and nothing ever reached the end without a path.
Since dreams are an "expected
end", then it is not wisdom in action for anyone to leave their dreams to (FATE
) unexpected paths. Dreams require intentionality for fulfilment.
DREAM PATHWAYS
These are CHOICES, RELATIONSHIPS
AND SKILLS. Did you see money anywhere on this list?
70% of young people believe that
money is the one thing they need for their dreams to move from #paper2playout. I once thought so too. Not
until, I began to run the birthplace and its numerous programmes. I soon learnt
that money isn't a path for dreams. I will show you its place later.
CHOICES: Choice refers
to the act of choosing from multiple options.
You are going to be faced with
numerous options. Some of them will appeal to you while others won’t. However, know
that THE CHOICES YOU MAKE ARE A PRODUCT OF YOUR VALUES
Read: 7 choices you will regret in 7 years time
Read: 7 choices you will regret in 7 years time
What are your values ?
Values refer to those things we hold in high
esteem. They are products of our beliefs/convictions and are influenced
by how we interprete our environment and experiences. If I were to rephrase the above
question, it would be WHAT DO YOU HOLD IN HIGH ESTEEM?
Many young people like Ada, Dapo
and Ahmed claim to what their dreams to move from #Paper2Playout; yet, their choices indicate
that they hold other things in higher esteem than they hold the dreams in your
hearts.
RELATIONSHIPS: People are the
quickest path towards or away from the fulfilment of every dream. Relationships
are like bridges between the start and the finish; the beginning and the end of
EVERY DREAM
Who are your team members?
Don't say, "Excuse me ma, i have not
started yet. I'll set up a team when I start."
Read: How to connect with people the first time
Read: How to connect with people the first time
The moment you conceived that
dream, you already started! Therefore your team members are those you currently
share the dream with. They don't need to have an “official title" or some
special designation to be team members
Anyone who directly relates with
you concerning your dream is a team member.
Team members have the power to make
or mar the dream. Therefore we must be careful who we allow into the RELATE-ON-SHIP.
Read: How to build quality relationships for fulfilling purpose
Read: How to build quality relationships for fulfilling purpose
Before allowing anyone as a “stakeholder
" into your "life", first access them against your destination
(dream). Ask the question, would he/she lead me towards fulfilling my dream or
away from it?
According to Business Dictionary, A
skill is An ability and capacity acquired through deliberate, systematic, and
sustained effort to smoothly and adaptively carryout complex activities or job
functions. It involves ideas (cognitive
skills), things (technical skills), and/or people (interpersonal skills).
Read: 5 things you should do differently
Read: 5 things you should do differently
Here is the connection; We make CHOICES based on our values; our
choices determine the quality of our RELATIONSHIPS and our SKILLS. This is
because we invest in what we VALUE.
If you value training, you will go
for it. You will pay for it especially because you have a dream. If you don't
have the funds for it at that moment? Save up for the next opportunity.
It’s amazing how people spend money
on " Education" in a bid to gain skill for their " career
dreams" but forget that CHOICES AND RELATIONSHIPS are two powerful equal midfielders
in the fulfilment game.
Critically look at your values. Are your dreams really important to you or
you are secretly doing the "birthday wish" fallacy thing?
Evaluate your RELATIONSHIPS. Are they
contributing to your fulfilment or killing the dream right there on paper?
Evaluate your SKILLS. How prepared
are you for opportunities related to your dream?
Read: 5 simple actions that make a more fulfilling life
Read: 5 simple actions that make a more fulfilling life
Activity
1 - List out 7 people in your life who you frequently communicate with (Mind
you, they are your team members). Honestly evaluate their role in your life.
How have they contributed to the fulfilment or non fulfilment of your dream?
Activity 2-
List out 7 people in your life whom you are currently helping to fulfil their
own dreams (Mind you, they are your team members), How have you contributed to
the fulfilment or non-fulfilment of their dreams so far?
Activity 3 - List out 7 skills you need to develop or learn to enable you fulfil your dream.
Allocate a time frame against each. The time frame is a reflection of when you
intend to acquire these skills
Excerpted from PAPER TO PLAYOUT MENTORING SESSION with Anne Atulaegwu
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